Body Shaming! WHY?

BODY SHAMING! WHY?

 Firstly what is body shaming. Let me define it briefly for those who don’t know what body shaming really is.

Body shaming is make fun of anyone’s appearance or humiliating anyone based on their physicality.

Why is it practised?

I have an answer to this question.

We do body shaming just for fun. Ever since our childhood we give our friends or classmates a title corresponding to their colour or shape. Body shammers think it is entertainment but sorry it isn’t.

I have been a victim of being body shammed a lot of times just for having a dark complexion and you know what I used to do I used to feel so bad thinking about why that person called me so and I used to wish to get a fairer skin but now tables have turned  I am proud of my complexion. See we can’t choose our body, if everyone had an opportunity to choose then obviously all of us would have chosen a fairer and muscular sort of a body but now I understood that

“It does not matter at all. “

One day I was standing in a line at my school ground in assembly and I noticed the fact that amongst these many fair people I am the only one having this complexion. Now I have two ways to think of it

First one is to feel sad that I am the odd one out

And second one that is being proud of outstanding the crowd. My colour made me outshine among all those similar coloured people.

Hence I think body shaming depends on our perception like how we think about ourselves. If you are happy with yourself no one can harm u or pull your morale down.

I am a person who has body shamed myself for the longest time I used to be unhappy with my complexion and a lot many things.

When I was too slim I was upset and wanted to somehow gain weight although when I put on weight I was upset again. But what I learnt is try to accept.

“ACCEPTANCE is the key. Turn off your DENIAL mode”

See what I have observed is that we ourselves are responsible for body shaming. I mean if you are person who body shame yourself just like I used to do then you are absolutely wrong and if you are hurt by someone else body shaming you then also it’s your fault.

Just try to understand what I want to say.

If you are hurt because someone body shamed you then it means you have given that person that much importance in your life. So, just do not give anyone the authority to body shame you.

If you are a victim of body shaming then just try to be more confident. Think of the positive side of whatever you have or however u look.

Never body shame the person who is doing the same thing to you.

“Tit for tat won’t work always.”

Just remember what you give is what you get.

Just keep smiling hence that person would feel bad and I hope he\she would stop.

By the way, I think body shaming is a crime and we Indians have this thing in our blood to body shame every single person we meet.

I think the only way to stop it is to educate children not to body shame and also not to feel low about being dark skinned or being fatty. Just try to make them feel good about themselves. Body shaming should not happen at home because we learn from what we see hence when we see our elders doing this thing then eventually we land up doing the same.

Body shaming has become one of the biggest problems in our generations. Whenever we watch television or while surfing the  internet or even reading a  newspaper there are pictures of so called “IDEAL men and women “ with their muscular bodies and fair and glowing skin. People suggest me whitening creams and I used to sort of get affected by that and just be upset.

Now I don’t care about my appearance. I started to love myself yes I know that it is a clichéd dialogue but I am honestly speaking it worked for me.

In order to stop body shaming there is only one way that is to ignore those comments or answer them back.

Remember these four let’s:

  1)  Let’s not give these body shamers the importance that they are in search of.

  2)Let’s stay happy with our real selves.

  3)  Let’s begin to not get affected by the pimples or acne or blackheads or being fatter or even thinner.

  4)  Let’s be satisfied with how we are.

“Stop ruining your present by undergoing the artificial methods to stand up to the societal parameters.

Try to be natural in this plastic world.

Change the definition of beauty and try to be beautiful from your soul instead of your body.”             
           Varun Mohan

 (Not a body shamer but a Soul lover)